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Dear Anna ,

Thanks for your mail; I'll update my account to include the information you provided.  It also allowed me to see things in a larger perspective and I'd just like you to know that I never intended to make it sound like you were involved in any way in encouraging my decision to initiate an attack on Lidia or negatively influencing my opinion of the family. My adjustments to the account will ensure that you are distanced from what is essentially a personal vendetta.  I still want you to understand, however, the difficult quandary your revelations have put me in. 

Before explaining this any further I'd like to reiterate that we both understand the fact that you couldn't have possibly known these ramifications when you related them to me and that you only contacted me to develop positive relationships with the extended family.  No matter how ugly it appears this affair will never negatively influence me towards you personally who I like very much. 

Still, what you've told me has left me in a really difficult position: if I continue on this path it makes me look like an embittered relative out for revenge (and financial recompense), whereas conceding defeat leaves me in the even worse position of admitting to something that my low self-esteem issues force me to suspect of myself, i.e. that I'm not deserving of love or respect and that the way I've chosen to lead my life is ultimately less meaningful and less deserving of recognition.  The dynamics of the relationship with my father have been irrevocably damaged; I can no longer assume that any of his actions are anything but self-serving and that his feelings for me rise above indifference.  I've tried really hard to interpret his unusual behaviour in a way which shows him in a favourable light, one in which my well being plays some kind of role but this is now impossible.  The question is whether this is an entirely bad thing; my mother thinks it's good because my attempting to view my father positively has only resulted in me constructing a fiction that would only hurt me more in the future if he became any more involved in my life and my construction of him became even more difficult to defend; she believes that this sobering experience should help me understand that not for any fault of his own my father is unable to develop empathic relationships towards other people.

I hope this helps you understand better the path I've decided to follow and I'll make sure that your (lack of) involvement in it is reflected in any future documentation.

Kindest regards,

Zachar Laskewicz

 

DOCUMENT CODE : LIV_03-12_2 viewable at http://www.nachtschimmen.eu/laskewiczestate/LIV_0312_2

From: Anna Livingstone [mailto:anna_2616@hotmail.com]
Sent: 08 March 2012 12:24
To: Zachar Laskewicz
Subject: RE: glad to remain in contact

 

Hi,

Thanks for the update. I would prefer it if my direct correspondence was kept off the website, as I am still in Perth and thus have to worry about legal ramifications etc., especially due to the legal document I signed during the settlement. You can copy your mother my correspondence though if you want to.
I am sorry that this has upset you so much, I hope what you're doing brings you some peace or you can let go of it when you are ready.

Just a few things on the page that was up there, Djed passed away after your brother did- 12/10/2009. I think Baba passed away in 2006. Also we have no actual/ physical proof that Lidia had the new will drawn up- legally speaking, therefore you might need to be a bit careful with that statement. New wills were drawn up and signed by Baba and Djed around 4 months after my mother died. Legally it is taken that they wrote these wills, and hence why it was difficult to contest. I contested the will in early 2010 and was settled by mid 2010. Morality and legality are different principals sadly.

Dad doesn't have facebook, but if you want to just email him you can get through to him and my step-mum at marykegeorge@hotmail.com
 
Let me know if you need anything else.

Kind regards,

Anna

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